Maybe you think of wedding etiquette as pertaining only to the bride, but there is, in fact a long list of do’s and don’ts for the wedding guest. A few days ago we talked about the “Do’s”… and today, we will chat about the “Don’ts”.
…If you weren’t invited with a guest; don’t show up with one. Penciling in another guest on the reply is one of the top ten complaints made by the bride. Also, bringing uninvited kids is a big NO!
…Don’t dress to compete with the bride. Stay away from reveling dress trends, and don’t, don’t wear white.
…Don’t be disrespectful of the bride and groom’s religious or cultural traditions. if you need to cover your shoulders in a church or temple..do it! Be quiet during a ritual you may not understand.
…Don’t be all about your wedding. Today belongs to the bride and your upcoming wedding is never to be the topic.
…Don’t use your phone to Facebook, Tweet or Text. Never make a phone call during the wedding or reception. If you take photos (no flash) with your phone, it is best to wait until the bride or groom have publicly posted pictures before you post your own. Remember, the bride has spent a lot of money on a professional photographer, and he/she has the privilege of posting those images first.
…It’s an old rule, but don’t leave before the cake is cut. In the past, it was a quiet sign that elderly can leave, but acceptable for you to depart as well.
Next post will cover some understated etiquette rules for the bride and groom. Come back and visit us.
Add a comment August 14, 2014
Sharon Naylor, the Emily Post institute and I concur that there are certain do’s and don’t’s for guests attending a wedding. Some are surely obvious; but reminders can’t hurt.
Let’s begin with the Do’s
…RSVP! Do this as soon as possible. Why? It’s essential to determining how much the wedding will cost. Most of the wedding expense is dictated by the numbers on the guest list.
…If you are invited to the ceremony, don’t just show up for the reception. The ceremony takes priority over the party. It is considered poor taste to show up to the open bar without first attending the main event.
…Dress as the style of the invitation suggests. If the invite has a casual feel, we’re not talking long fancy dresses. If that invitation is all formal in style, we’re probably not talking sun dresses and flip flops. If unsure, ask someone familiar with the wedding, like a bridesmaid. Don’t bother the bride..she has her own dress to worry about.
…arrive at the ceremony on time. Allow enough time to include getting lost or held up in traffic. If you do arrive late, protocol states that you only slip into a back pew once the processional is completely finished.
…Send a gift even if you don’t attend. Etiquette dictates that if you were invited, you own the couple a gift, even if you can’t make it to the wedding.
And, always shop from the registry.
…Sit at your assigned table. A lot of thought and time goes into these seating arrangements.
…Bring an approximate guest, only if you have actually been invited with a guest.
Tune in for the Don’t’s in next post!!!
Wedding and event planning curriculum for Ashworth College (online) has kept me away from my blog posts. I am back and will soon begin some short tips on wedding etiquette for both the wedding party and the guests. Stay tuned in!
Add a comment July 15, 2014
A short while ago, I had the opportunity to teach another seminar for the Association of Bridal Consultants (www.bridalassn.com). This time it was hosted by a resort called Carey Conference Center (www.careyconferencecenter.org in upstate New York. I was so impressed by the location, I wanted to share it with those couples seeking a destination wedding/honeymoon location stateside.
“Picture your destination weekend wedding at our beautiful country estate, only 27 miles southwest of Albany, New York, overlooking the Catskill Mountains. What a wonderful way to bring families and friends together for a special and memorable occasion.
Why plan for a year and have it last only four hours when you can spend three days together and have exclusive use of our estate at an affordable price. visit our website and take a tour of our property, or give us a call so we show you around in person.”
The wedding weekend usually includes:
…exclusive use of the property
…fine dining, to include the rehearsal dinner
…picturesque wedding ceremony on the estate
…a reception in one of the gardens
…dinner and dancing in the rolling meadow beneath a magnificent white tent
…overnight lodging for the bride, groom, family and guests
The estate also includes:
…tennis, volleyball, horseshoes, snowshoes, cross-country skiing and fishing
…fireside settings throughout
…golfing and skiing available nearby
Can’t say enough about this venue…call me at 513-742-1645 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information on pricing and number of guests.
If it is true that www.pinterest.com is the bride’s best Internet friend, I decided that I needed to get my boards refreshed and updated. If you log on and go to Joyce Smith, you can see that I am including boards that show the passion that I have for the wedding industry. I started a few months ago with creating a board for a destination client. I let it lay idle for too long, while continuing to see notices that someone was following my boards. So, today I spent time creating new ones.
Head Over Heels has a contemporary peek at headpieces, veils and shoes. Boy, do I love those shoes!
All About the Back comes from a fashion article on gown trends for 2013. Just look at what the guests will view during the ceremony.
Luck of the Irish comes with an Emerald Green Wedding..color for 2013
1 comment February 26, 2013
March 15 and 16 is the date set for the ABC Ohio State Meeting to be held in Dayton at the Event Connections on US HWY 35 and Woodman Ave. ( www.theeventconnections.com) Friday, will be an all day Novice training session for those new to the industry, and Saturday’s agenda will be filled with the best and the brightest speakers in the wedding industry. Five Master Bridal Consultants will share their wisdom on topics we all could use to enhance our businesses. E-mail Joyce@weddingsunltd.com, the ABC State Coordinator for ABC (www.bridalassn.com) for a registration form. Hurry, don’t miss out on a great weekend.
Add a comment February 20, 2013
Recently I had the privilege of attending the 6th Annual Photographers’ Awards Night hosted by Images by Daniel Michael, Inc. (www.danielmichael.com) In my 20 years as an event planner, this was a first of its type for me… An employee recognizing his employees for a job well done! The awards were two-fold: humorous and serious, with the presentations ending with the photographer of the Year for Daniel’s company. Even the guests were engaged in helping with a “People’s Choice” selection of best photo of the year. My choice came in second. I think the vases may have been stacked!
Kudos go to the Bell Event Centre (www.belleventcentre.com) for its fabulous and unique venue and food. And Party Pleasers (www.partypleasersdj.com) kept the evening on a high note. Not often as a vendor do we get the opportunity at a party to get down and boogie. I even tried it a few times.
Because I personally like to gussy up now and them, I was so impressed with the dress code for the evening. Daniel requested that we don our best outfits; and I can say just about everyone did, with a few exceptions of those that may have missed the cue.
Overall, it was a fantastic evening where we vendors and planners actually got to be “a guest” at a function. Dinin’, drinkin’ and dancin’ was all just for us!
Thanks Daniel..hope to see you next year.
Add a comment January 28, 2013
If you are seeking a beach location for your destination wedding and/or honeymoon, sign up for our Sandals’ Caribbean Night at the Cincinnati Event Connection in the bridal district on Benson Street set for February 27. Call Joyce to register at 513-742-1645.
Add a comment January 16, 2013
Class is offered again at University of Cincinnati. Feb. 21-March 7 from 6:30-8:30. Three Thursday sessions. $129 and taught by Master Bridal Consultant, Joyce Smith. Course #1119-01 Call: 513-556-6932 for more information on registration.See past posts for class description.
Add a comment January 16, 2013
Any bride wanting to have her wedding in a culture other than her home culture expects to retain “the best”. Planning a destination wedding is complicated and includes many seen and unseen details that she knows she doesn’t know. When she comes to us, she will expect us to know what is needed. Our job will be to make her experience as easy and uneventful as possible, just as it would be if she lived in the country she chooses for her wedding. Expectations are critical – yours, hers, the families, the grooms….Fees will need to be discusssed early in the process. Total transparency with everyone involved is mandatory for a successful wedding. Not all couples getting married in the chosen country have traveled there, while some may be very comfortable in that culture. It will be our position to connect up with the international consultants to make our clients feel as comfortable, relaxed and happy as possible.
Who will be responsible for the various decisions? Everyone (client & vendors) needs to be in agreement about the services our clients are expecting, and it is important that they understand exactly what we are offering. Misunderstanding while dealing with great distances can be disastrous for everyone involved. Everything will need to be carefully addressed in a contractual form. Each client should be prepared to sign the agreement, plus providing us with copies of passports and drivers licenses. They may also be expected to sign a privacy consent.
With that being said…come to us with your dreams of planning a destination wedding. Contact us: joyce@weddingsunltd,com or call at 513-742-1645.
Add a comment October 15, 2012